You’ve got a vision for this next year: you want to look more and more like Christ. So if you’re ready to shed all that entangles you so you can run the race God has set before you, these picked-just-for-you podcast episodes will be immensely helpful. The Lazy Genius: Episode: #87 The Lazy Genius Guide […]
People Pleasing
Let’s love the holidays again
You feel the push and pull of the holidays: the errands, the buying, the too-tight pants, the traveling, the expectations, and All The Things. Feeling stressed, tired, and a bit worn out from all the celebrating has stolen your love for the holidays. You want to make the holiday season memorable AND you want to […]
Three reasons you really aren’t a people-pleaser {Fear Series}
As a kid, I ate Oscar Mayer bacon cooked in our electric skillet as a Saturday morning treat. In the spirit of full disclosure, I hated the wavy fattiness of it. Fast forward several years when Ryan and I ate at a restaurant of a celebrity chef. Dotting the edge of my plate were these […]
Three destructive lies people-pleasers believe
Michael Scott, the boss of Dunder Mifflin’s Scranton branch on The Office, said it best, “Do I need to be liked? Absolutely not. I like to be liked. I enjoy being liked. I have to be liked. But it’s not like this compulsive need to be liked, like my need to be praised.” And even […]
Why you feel awkward when people ask what you do
My first job out of college was for the Houston Astros Baseball Club, my most prestigious job by far. It was cool because I was a woman in a predominantly male field, and I worked for one of only 30 ball clubs in the United States. I had a job that everyone seemed in awe […]
Why perfectionists hate community
This time of year, every church invites us to get plugged in to a small group. Pastors extol the benefits of doing life with others, and we’re reminded that we’re designed for community. My first response is: I’d rather poke my eye out with a dull pencil. Wait, wait, wait. I love people. I love […]
Why trying to never disappoint others is actually hurting you
Our oldest has her heart set on starting a pet sitting business. She wants to care for dogs and cats, to show that she’s a responsible kid, and to seem older than her years convey. So in response to her idea, I asked her a couple of questions. “Are there any pets that you wouldn’t […]
Another Achiever Goes Rogue: An interview with author Cheri Gregory
Another Achiever is Going Rogue! Here’s the story of Cheri Gregory, one of my favorite podcasters who also happens to be a teacher, speaker, author, and Certified Personality Trainer. There are so many things to love about Cheri: her passion to help women break free from destructive expectations, her writing style, and y’all, her voice is […]
The high cost of being low maintenance
It was Prom 1994. Rebecca, Amanda, Jess, and I decided that the girls would get ready at Rebecca’s house, but that’s not what I did. I got ready at my house so I could help the others get ready. Prom was amazing and wonderful. But looking back, I wonder why my first thought was to […]
The Achiever’s Dirty Little Secret
Five weeks after having our youngest, I woke up in the middle of the night to the feeling of an elephant sitting on my chest. I couldn’t breathe, and the chest pressure was excruciating. Being the Aggie that I am, I thought the trouble was wardrobe related. I must be overheating because of my sweatshirt. What I […]