This letter is for any mama who’s been on bed rest or has a medical diagnosis that keeps her from doing what she thinks she should be doing. However, it’s also for any mom who struggles with finding her identity in what she does for her children. If you’re struggling as a mama, I’ve created a free download of 31 truths you can share with your kids.

I don’t presume to be God, but His Word is clear on motherhood, grace, and His endless love. This is a letter written to you from God’s perspective based on His truth to remind us of who we are as moms.

Dear daughter of mine,

I see you. You’re feeling isolated, worthless, helpless, frustrated, and trapped. I see these thoughts swirling in your head:

Why is everyone else’s life going on while mine’s on hold?

How long until I get out of this bed?

When can I go back to my regularly-scheduled life?

You’re hurting because you can’t physically do it all for your children. Your heart feels like it could break out of sadness or anger or both.

Would you mind if I sat with you for a minute and shared My truth about who you are and what’s going on behind-the-scenes?

Being a mother isn’t about what you do.

Motherhood makes you think about cooking, laundry, birthday parties, or packing lunches, but it’s about far more than that.

You and I both know that love is active, so what about when you can’t move like you wish you could? Does this make you un-loving?

Not at all.

Love is more than action—it’s the essence of who you are. You were created by love itself (1 John 4:8), in the presence of Love (Psalm 139:13), and for the purpose of Love (Revelation 4:11). It defines who you most truly are (1 Corinthians 13:4–8).

Love is who you are and what you give, even if you share it in ways you never planned.

Being a mom isn’t about being a success or failure.

Motherhood is important to you, and I’m so thankful that I made you one, but right now you’re frustrated.

You hear about other moms hosting play-dates or pushing their toddler on the swing, and you. You listen for the laughter outside your door and long to be a part of it. You feel like a failure, like you’re worthless in the role of mom, like you have no place.

Daughter of mine, would you look into my face for a minute and see the love I have for you?

Your success is in no way tied to what you did today as a mom: how many carpools you drove or baths you gave or stories you read. My goal for you is to be obedient and to trust and follow Me. I’m unimpressed by a completed checklist, but I adore when people have faith in Me.

Being a mom isn’t about what you think it is.

Motherhood is about stewarding the gifts of the children I’ve given to you, but what does this look like when you feel confined, limited, and down for the count?

Here’s what I’ve called you to do as a mom:

  • Train your children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6)
  • Discipline and correct them (Proverbs 23:13, Proverbs 29:15)
  • Comfort them (Isaiah 66:13)
  • Tell them about Me (Deuteronomy 4:9, 11:19; Proverbs 1:8)

Nowhere in that list does it say anything about chaperoning the field trip or helping with the school project or driving everyone to soccer practice.

Training, disciplining, comforting, and telling your kids about me can all be summed up in one word: love. And you can love your kids wherever you are. I didn’t limit love to times of good health.

It’s true, some days you just feel terrible and your energy is low, but you know what? I fill in the gaps in ways you can’t see and may never know. I alone am responsible for outcomes. Your job is simply to do what you’re able to do for today and leave the rest up to Me.

Being on bed rest or having medical limitations isn’t what you think it is.

Motherhood with limitations doesn’t make much sense to you right now, but remember that I’m a good God who works all things for your good (Romans 8:28) even when those words sound more like a greeting card than your reality.

You think, “Isn’t caring for my kids what’s good for me?” or “How is this diagnosis for my good when it’s painful and hard and I hate every second?”

Come to me with these thoughts. I am strong and loving enough to absorb all the hurt you can hurl at me. It’s okay to scream at Me. I love you, and I’m surprised by nothing.

My word “for your good” doesn’t promise a fairy tale ending—it promises you’ll become more and more like My Son Jesus. I’ll do anything it takes to move you closer to the image of Christ and to show you how much I love you.

Being a mom is a role I treat with kindness.

As your Father, I lead you, guide you, and give you what you need exactly when you need it. Because I am your Good Shepherd, you lack nothing.

“But God,” you speak, “I lack so much. I lack energy to play. I lack the stamina to cook dinner. I lack the endurance to be the room mom.”

But my child, you want for nothing because I am with you, not because of what you’ve done or what you’re doing right now.

My never-forsaking leadership is gentle (Isaiah 40:11), and I will give you My strength to bear your circumstances.

Use this time to draw close to Me: yell at Me, ask Me questions, talk to Me, or sit in silence. Sometimes, when you cry out to me but don’t hear a reply, it’s because I’m crying right there with you. Sometimes, there are no words, only My presence.

I love you sweet girl, my daughter who has daughters and sons of her own. Place your trust in Me for I collect your prayers like incense, I know the number of hairs on your head, and your name is written on My hands. Please never forget that My love for you is wide and high and long and deep, and that…

I am always with you,

Your Heavenly Father

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