How does your Enneagram type handle conflict? Where does your type get stuck in conflict? What do you need to know about your Enneagram type when you find yourself in conflict?
In this interview, speaker, writer, and Enneagram Coach Jenn Whitmer breaks down conflict and the Enneagram, going type-by-type about where each Enneagram type struggles, shines, and what would serve us well to remember.
She tells us:
- What each Enneagram brings to the table in conflict
- Where each type struggles
- And how each type can practically handle conflict and hard conversations better.
Jenn reframes conflict as an opportunity and reminds us it’s really a heart posture of humility and community so we can tackle the issue out there.
To skip to a type:
- Type Eight: 3:35
- Type Nine: 7:15
- Type One: 10:52
- Type Two: 14:54
- Type Three: 18:43
- Type Four: 21:59
- Type Five: 25:50
- Type Six: 29:10
- Type Seven: 33:11
Key Quotes
- “Vulnerability is actually a strength. It takes a lot of strength and trust to expose your heart, but it’s what connects you to people.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “It’s a paradox of life that we are all doing the best we can, but everybody can do better.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “Avoiding conflict usually creates more.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “Conflict is not failure. Conflict is a problem-solving opportunity.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “You are safe to have needs.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “Conflict is an opportunity, not a threat.” – Jenn Whitmer
- “Conflict resolution is a posture of, ‘It’s the two of us together against the problem out there.’” – Jenn Whitmer
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About Jenn Whitmer
Jenn helps teams and leaders solve conflict and personality clashes. She speaks, writes, and coaches about hard topics with infectious joy. Through working with Jenn, people improve communication, work through conflict, and build self-awareness with the Enneagram. She asks big questions that lead to big dreams and big ideas and big living. Usually, that means laughing.
Jenn has graduate certificates in music education, theology, and leadership along with a Master of Arts in communication and culture from Webster University and certification as an Enneagram coach.
Jenn lives in St. Louis, Missouri, with her husband, Michael, their four kids, and a cat that puts up with them all.
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