#135: Grace vs. Fear: When you worry you’re selfish

No grace-girl worth her salt wants to be selfish. Women – especially women raised in the church – do not want to be selfish or self-centered or someone who pursues selfish ambitions.

Selfishness is a ninja that sneaks up on us and calls us out when we dare to

watch a show and sit on the couch instead of doing laundry,
sit on the back porch and read a book instead of playing with our kids,
or when we turn down a coffee date or volunteer request.

In this episode, we break down:

What skews our understanding of self-ish-ness,
What self-ish-ness is, and what is not,
Whether self-less-ness is our ultimate goal,
And where grace meets us as we tend to our self.

Key Quotes

“Acknowledging and honoring your basic human needs, like resting when you need to rest, having fun with your friends, and taking a break from monotony, are not selfish.” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick
“The Lord is faithful and just to show you blindspots or fear and what you’re doing well.” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick
“Have you convinced yourself your needs don’t matter?” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick
“Have you tucked your talents, gifts, personality, and temperament away, believing this is what dying to self looks like?” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick
“You can honor your needs and the needs of others; because one person is not more sacred or holy or better or more valuable than the other because God shows no partiality, and neither should you.” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick
“You are not selfish because you have needs, dreams, and talents. You are God’s girl.” – Writer + speaker Jill E. McCormick