#131: Grace-based Friendship: How your Enneagram type impacts your friendships

How does your Enneagram type impacts what type of friend you are? Our goal here is for you to learn about how God wired you, but also for you to learn about those in your life so you can love them well, show them grace, and be the friend God created you to be.

You were created by God with your personality type by design for a specific purpose, so you can be the friend God created you to be to others and so you can be friends with God Himself.

For each Enneagram type, we’ll break down:

Where you shine and struggle in friendship
And healthy habits to help you grow.

You can also grab this free resource about what the Enneagram is, what it isn’t, and what you want to know about your personality type. Your Quick Start Guide to the Enneagram walks you through how to determine your type, what’s up with wings, and Enneagram resources you’ll want to check out.

Please know that I’m not an Enneagram expert, merely a lover of it. What I present to you is based on my own research, feedback from men and women of each type, and peer review.

Key Quotes

“You were created by God with your personality type by design for a specific purpose, so you can be the friend God created you to be to others, and so you can be friends with God Himself.” – Jill E. McCormick
“You are not your Enneagram type. You are God’s beloved. Part of a royal priesthood. A holy nation. God’s chosen possession.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Eights, if you want to grow in your friendships, practice being open-hearted. Walk in with the mindset that you don’t have to dominate the person or conversation, but that you can show up as you are.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Nines, if you want to grow in your friendships, challenge yourself to share a true feeling or opinion or preference with a friend.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Ones, if you want to grow in your friendships, challenge yourself to give one true, heartfelt compliment (not critique!) per day.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Twos, if you want to grow in your friendships, find one trusted friend and share one need with her. No matter how big or how small, share one way your friend can help.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Threes, if you want to grow in your friendships, please start with taking off your mask of fake fine. It’s okay to struggle. People will love you even more without the dog-and-pony show you put on.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Fours, if you want to grow in your friendships, remember that some of your friends are really comfortable digging deep and expressing every emotion, and some of your friends aren’t. And that’s okay.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Fives, if you want to grow in your friendships, think about partial solutions for friend-time. Maybe social time looks like striking up a conversation over Marco Polo or Voxer.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Sixes, if you want to grow in your friendships, remember that not everyone will be as committed, thoughtful, or responsible as you are. Don’t lower your expectations; just don’t give up on those who aren’t as invested as you are.” – Jill E. McCormick
“Sevens, if you want to grow in your friendships, find one or two trustworthy people and share a pain point with them.” – Jill E. McCormick