#108: Skill Set: Processing grief when you’d rather avoid it with Katie Rössler

Grief comes to us for different reasons. Burying someone we love. Sending our firstborn to kindergarten. Signing the divorce papers. Packing our child’s room for college. Returning to work after years of staying at home.

Try-hard girls, we all experience loss and grief, yet so many of us push it away. Grief is found at the intersection of accepting our reality and letting go of expectations.

Oh, try-hard girls, we are masters at evading grief, but perhaps, friends, that mastery can end here today.

Here to offer us hope and help is today’s guest Katie Rössler.

This episode is the seventh and final installment in our Skill Set series, one in which we’ll take God’s wisdom and overlay it onto our real-life struggles so we can know what practical tools are at our disposal to help us overcome our struggles with God’s truth and grace.

Key Quotes

“Grief is an emotional, mental, and physical response to when life doesn’t go the way we thought it would or should.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Grief is ever-present in motherhood.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Facing and confronting our grief means we stop acting like everything is okay and are honest with ourselves.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Grief is the norm, and we were never taught to sit with that.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“When it comes to hidden grief, what are the things I have to hide that I feel like I cannot show?” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Thank God we are complex human beings; we can have ‘and’ emotions. We can be sad and grieving and grateful.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“What’s wrong with a good cry?” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Somewhere along the line, we got really good at everything except for feeling our feelings.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“When we listen to god, we get the message: ‘Stop and feel this.’” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Your body’s been asking you to cry for weeks, maybe months, maybe years. So why not listen?” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Here’s what freedom actually feels like: this is what God was calling me to be and do.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“What does it mean if I’m not fine?” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Hold sacred space for yourself.” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“Do you think you might be grieving?” – LPC and author Katie Rössler
“We need to not be ashamed for our grief and told to think positively.”– LPC and author Katie Rössler

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LPC and author Katie Rössler’s The New Face of Grief
Eric Carle’s The Very Hungry Caterpillar

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About Katie Rössler

Katie is a transformative grief guide and licensed counselor with 13 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families. She is the author of The New Face of Grief and is on a mission to help people learn how to heal hidden grief in their lives. Katie is an ex-pat, wife, mom of three, and loves to be by the water to relax.